I Used to be a Pure Romance Consultant: Ask Me Anything

As I begin to close the curtain on one of the biggest phases of my life, my life as a Pure Romance consultant, I feel like some attention must be paid to this crazy job and what it meant to me over the past two years. Pure Romance is a direct sales company that specializes in at-home parties and selling lotions, lubricants, lingerie, and bedroom accessories. At the end of my demos, I would always open up the floor for my customers to ask me any questions they ahd about being a consultant, whether they be of the personal or professional nature.  My favorites were the personal ones, but the professional questions often led to adding “girls” to my team and expanding my little PR family. With this week being my absolute last week in”the business,” i am going to review my favorite questions that have been asked of me over the years and answer them truthfully.  Then I am going to “open the floor” once more for any questions you may have.

WHOA!  YOU AREN’T A DOMINATRIX?

Nope. I am a girly girl.  I love wearing pink, dresses, and the only leather that I own is a jacket I got as a Christmas gift. I do not have a “red room of pain” in my house, either.  There have been parties in the past where that was honestly the the perception of the “sex toy” consultant.  The ladies have been pleasantly surprised. 🙂

My Usual Outft…TakenToday. Mommy thought I looked adorable

HOW DID YOU GET IN THE BUSINESS?

I was a 22 year old college grad with a degree in music and couldn’t do a darn thing with it.  This is wayyyy back when I was still a lowly assistant at the real estate office where my mom works. My job was to make sure every house of ours had brochures, which meant that I was stuck in front of a computer about 32 hours a week.  As much as I loved working for mom, it was mind-numbing work. This resulted in me having occasional nervous breakdowns thinking to myself “Dear God, I am going to be doing this the rest of my life!”  I began searching for more stimulating work, and that’s when I found Pure Romance.  I was a PR “virgin”, which meant that I had never been to a party.  I was a little intimidated by the products, but upon further inspection, I fell in love with the company and everything it stood for, mainly female empowerment.  I purchased my kit and never looked back.

My very first “expo”

WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST PARTY LIKE?

You guys, I was terrified.  I was sweating bullets the entire time but my friends laughed along with me, I had cue cards, and I got through it.  After 3 or 4 times, I was feeling like a pro!

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PRODUCT?

The Whipped shea butter lotion.  The Whipped is flavored and smells ohhhhh soooo good.  I am sniffing my hands right now.  My favorite flavor/scent is Strawberry Cheesecake.  Fun fact! It is also the first PR product I tested.

WHAT WAS THE MOST MEMORABLE EXPERIENCE WITH PURE ROMANCE?

It was my first year and I decided to go to National Training in Cincinnati.  My PR “mother” Tonya, my “sister” Renee and I attended the Board Breaking Ceremony on the last day.  We sat through this wonderful empowering speech about conquering fears and “breaking through” to the other side of that fear.  At the end of the presentation, we were taught how to break wooden boards, and then we had to actually bust through them.  Crazy stuff! We wrote down our fears on one side, and on the other side our dreams.  When it came to be my turn, it took me a few tries.  I actually had to give my hand a rest.  But the moment I actually broke through the board, I began to sob.  It was simpy amazing!

We is some board-bustin’ mothas!

STRANGEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED IN THE BUSINESS?

I got a phone call at 3 AM from a customer, telling me how wonderful the product she had purchased was and that her boyfriend really wanted to say “thanks.”  I told her “right on” and went back to sleep.  Funny stuff.

WHAT HAS PURE ROMANCE DONE FOR YOUR PERSONAL LIFE?

It has brought in so many great people.  My sponsor for one has been one of the most upbeat and funny women I have ever known.  One of the reasons why I stayed in the business so long was because of my Pure Romance sisters.  It has also taken some years off my life socially.  I will not lie, working weekends was hard on my friendships, and I honestly think I lost several friendships along the way because I was working so much.  One thing I never truly learned was balance.  It’s very important, especially when you are self employed.

Mama “Holla” and Me

Pure Romance has also taught me to keep an open mind.  Over the years, I have made contact with tons of womenfrom many walks of life: lesbians, virgins, Muslims, Catholics, swingers, women that have never had an orgasm.  I treat each of them with respect, and I actually learned so much.I don’t believe that I would be the same woman I am today without all the great women I have met since I began my business.

Me and My First PR “baby” Angela

HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU MAKE?

I really have no problem with sharing that.  As a consultant who obtained the 50% discount for life, I actually made half of everything I sold.  In 2011, my total sales were near $30,000. I actually made more money at my party job last year than I did at my desk job.

WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED?

The hardest workers make the most money.  Stop bitching and moaning when someone is doing better than you and aim to learn from that person.  There are going to be good parties and there are going to bad parties…all that matters is that you learned something from each experience.  Listen! Listen! Listen! Shadow as many consultants as you can…you will pick up things along the way. Learn to say “no.” The phone is your best friend.  No one loves you like a Pure Romance sister does.

Renee, Me, and Tonya at National Training

Now, it’s your turn to ask me anything!  Please keep the questions pG-13 though.  Thanks for a great 2 years of business to all my customers!  I love you all!